A Story Worth Telling

Nate & I went to a wedding reception today, and it was actually 8 months ago today that we got married! With wedding thoughts on my mind, I looked back through some of our wedding pictures tonight, and then ending up reading through several Facebook posts leading up to our wedding day.

It was neat to read back through and sense the excitement as we anticipated becoming husband and wife. Many family and friends also shared in that excitement, showing their support and encouragement as we looked forward to sharing that day with them.

Browsing through Facebook posts from last year, I eventually ended up on my blog and was reminded that today holds significance as each year I remember the love and support of my family and friends.

This day had been in the back of my mind lately, knowing it was this month, but I honestly couldn't remember the exact day. Until today. November 16th. The exact day I was hospitalized fours years ago now to sort out some mental health struggles.

When I was thinking about it earlier this month, I decided I didn't want to make a big deal about it this year like I have the past two years. But now that the Lord brought it to mind on the exact day, I do want to take time to recognize the faithful support from family and friends - in good times (like getting married) and bad (like facing unknowns related to mental health).

Matthew West's song, "The Story of Your Life" has been on my mind recently, and the last line of the chorus stuck out to me tonight...

This is the story of your life
You decide
How the rest is gonna read
This is your chance between the lines
To redefine what kind of legacy you leave
This is the story of your life
And it's a story worth telling

I've told my story. The good and the bad. And I've been so blessed by many who encourage me as the story of my life continues!

Thank you to each of you who have loved me and have shared in my joy and my pain. YOU are such a significant part of my story & I thank God for you! 

Home Improvements

Nate purchased our house last summer, and we spent several months before our wedding getting the place ready to move in after we got married in March. While the house was move-in ready by then, there were still many projects on our "to do" list! Here's a look at some of the improvements:

1. New Front Deck - No more water draining into the basement when it rains!

2. Brand New Stove - We lived for 7 months without a stove. We are now enjoying several new meals we weren't able to make before!

3. Vent Covers - This task was way more difficult than we ever imagined! The old covers were...well, old! And beat up, random colors, etc. When we decided we wanted to replace them, we did not realize standard sizes have changed. Stores no longer carried what we needed. Nate ended up having to cut away some trim work in order for these new vent covers to fit. Thankfully, he's handy and did a great job!

 4. Energy Efficient - Nate received a random package in the mail yesterday. He was so confused when he opened it up and found a shower head! We recently recycled an old fridge with NYSEG, and they sent this to us so we can be even more energy efficient and save on water. This was in addition to the energy efficient light bulbs they gave us the day they picked up the old fridge - Thank You, NYSEG!

5. Fall Fun - Nate's dad gave us some mums at Easter. Even thought I thought I'd killed them and they looked hopeless, we planted them over the summer, and they came back so much bigger! They've really popped out this past week and add quite a bit of color as everything else is dying out for the year. How fun!

I realize there will probably always be things at the house we want to work on, but we're not letting the seemingly never ending list overwhelm us! The transformation has definitely been a learning experience, and things like unexpected shower head deliveries keep it fun and interesting!

A Few Things I've Learned About Nate

Nate and I recently spent a week of vacation together! We traveled to visit family and friends, and then enjoyed time together in Lake George - fall is a beautiful time of year in the Adirondacks!

Today marks seven months of being married, and I've already been reminded of our wedding ceremony a couple times this morning! The scripture passage in the devotional book Nate and I use highlighted Colossians 3 today - the verses we picked for Pastor Jim to share during our ceremony. Later, I was blow drying my hair and realized I was singing "I Surrender All" which our guests sang along with us during the ceremony! Neat reminders today as we reflect on our marriage.

The other day I was thinking about things I've learned since meeting Nate. I grew up with two sisters, so he has certainly opened up my eyes to all things GUY! Such as:

• Anything is better if it's gas powered. Give Nate a gas powered weed whacker and he's happy for hours!
• For Nate, a trip to Harbor Freight is like a trip to Joann's for me - this guy loves his tools!
• Breakfast isn't complete without honey or waffles - or both. We received two waffles irons as gifts before we got married. I was going to take one back, but Nate wanted to keep them both - one was for regular waffles and one was for belgian waffles - I wouldn't have known the difference! Nate is the Waffle Master.
• Reflective listening is automatic for Nate. I noticed this early on and really appreciate it. Nate's always repeating back what someone says to him, but in his own words. He often will recognize someone's situation from their perspective. Many people have to be taught and reminded to use reflective listening skills, but Nate truly engages people in conversation.
• Nate appreciates fun. He definitely has a goofball side and is always up for new adventures!

I could probably write a book about Nate. He lives out the life we're called to in Colossians 3, and I'm so thankful for the privilege of being his wife!

Put on then, as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God. And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him. Colossians 3:12-17

Reality = Unplanned Frustrations

I was just finishing up a wonderful blog post about all the great things that have happened the past six months that Nate and I have been married. And then my computer shut down on me.

While I could have gone back and finished that post, I realized those "unplanned frustrations" have tended to be a theme lately, so I'm going to highlight those instead. Here's a more realistic look at what we've experienced in the first half of our first year of marriage:

• We currently need to turn our basement lights on when we want to use the internet.
• Nate's driving record showed he left the scene of an accident and it added six points on his license. Problem was: the hit and run was apparently in Missouri - a place Nate has never been to!
• We still do not have a stove, and we blow a fuse when we use the toaster oven and microwave at the same time.
• We'd been wanting to go camping at Long Pond (where Nate proposed) and the afternoon we planned to go the fridge in apartment we rent out decided to die. So instead of loading the canoe and tent up in Nate's truck, we headed to Lowes and hulled a new fridge home in Nate's truck!
• We had Nate's family over for dinner on the grill one night and had trouble with the propane. Realizing we didn't have a stove to cook everything in, we ate in shifts as we cooked each item in the toaster oven.
• We still do not have vent covers for our duct work and have realized the sizes we need do not line up with the current standard sizes available.
• I found the website I wanted to create our wedding album through and spent hours uploading pictures and placing them on just the right pages. When I went to sign back in a few days later to finalize everything, it wasn't accepting my password. Come to find out: when I originally signed up, I had a typo in my email address, so created an account for an email that's not even mine! Now I need to figure out if I should finish the book under this incorrect email or start the whole book over with the right account.

Despite certain things not going as planned, we truly have enjoyed the past six months. God is good and our life is full of blessings from Him! We ended up being able to recycle the old fridge from the apartment and got six energy efficient lightbulbs with the deal too - just the number we need for our basement, so now at least when we turn our internet on, we're being more efficient with the lights that have to be on too!

As far at the hit and run on Nate's record, after countless phone calls to Missouri and New York State, they realized Nate was not the right guy, so cleared it from his record. That was an answer to prayer!

While things like vent cover sizes and mis-typed emails can prevent us from accomplishing our plans in our timing, we try to keep everything in perspective and make the most of each day no matter what it brings. We didn't make it to Long Pond the weekend we originally wanted to, so we pitched the tent in our backyard after dealing with the fridge. We had a lot of fun roasting hotdogs and marshmallows right at home and were able to camp at Long Pond a few weeks later.

Instead of working on house projects last night, we marked our six month anniversary with a movie and popcorn. I think it was just what we needed as we gear up for whatever "unplanned frustrations" the next six months will bring!

Photo Credit: Brandi Scott Photography

1 Month Later

Nate & I celebrated 1 month of marriage today!

Since coming back from Colorado, we have somewhat settled into a routine and are slowly working through all the phone calls, decisions, and paperwork involved in changing a name and moving to a new house. Here are a few updates:

Meals: We still do not have a stove, but have been faithfully using the crock pot, waffle maker, and microwave to make creative meals - only one of which we will never make again...

House: Along with a bathroom door, we now have a bedroom door! This is key on days when Nate heads to bed early, and I am still up working on things in the house. Next up: we're hoping to paint and re-install the vent covers after unfortunately flinging an item into the open vent and losing it to the duct work..oops!

Fun: We've had several friends and family members over to the house for food, games, and catching up. And just this week we were finally able to figure out how to switch the TV mode to recognize our DVD player and [more importantly, according to Nate] the Nintendo...can you say Duck Hunt?!

We truly have enjoyed this past month as husband and wife - learning more about each other and living life together. It didn't take long to realize that we do still need to make time for just ourselves though, and I've recently been able to catch up on some blogging if you'd like to read more about our Wedding and/or Honeymoon - just click the links!

Colorado Honeymoon

We spent our first week as husband and wife in Colorado! Here are a few highlights from the trip:

 1. Awesome Wildlife - up close and personal!

2. Great Food - this was at a BBQ place after a day on the slopes!

 3. Spectacular Views - this is what we saw once we conquered one of the mountains in Rocky Mountain National Park. Driving around all week, the views were just breathtaking!

4. Cozy Cabin & Relaxation - this is where we stayed. Just enough room for two, a warm fireplace, and a hot tub right outside!

We would love to go back to Colorado someday and would highly recommend you plan a trip there too - you won't be disappointed!

For more pictures from our trip, click here.

Our Wedding

I'm not quite sure how to sum up an entire wedding day into one blog post, but here's a look at the day Nate & I said "I do!"

All photos from Brandi Scott Photography.

First Look: We saw each other before the ceremony and shared letters that we had written to each other. This was the most teary-eyed moment of the day for me!

Ceremony: We had a traditional marriage ceremony and exchanged vows & rings. We also had our guests sing two songs with us - I Surrender All and Beauty of the Cross. Our desire was for the focus to be on God as the center of our relationship.

Pastor Jim shared from a few passages of Scripture, including Colossians 3:12-17 and John 15:4-5. As he explained Christ's comparison that He is the vine and we are the branches -  apart from Him we can do nothing - Nate and I wove a three strand cord together to represent Christ incorporated into our marriage.

 We added another guy into the Tischer Family!

 And I became a Brown!

 We were glad our brothers and sisters could celebrate with us!

Reception: After the ceremony and a few more pictures, we joined guests across the street for our reception. Highlights included:

• A Trail Mix Bar for guests to create their own snack
• A Wooden Bench Nate had made for guests to sign with a wood-burning tool
• Delicious Food: a carving station to make ham or turkey sandwiches, baked macaroni & cheese, fruit, veggies, cheese & crackers, meatballs, and super tasty berry cobbler for dessert (which resulted in only a slight red stain on my dress after we fed it to each other!)
• Thoughtful Speeches from our siblings that had us cracking up!
• A Farkle game give-away to recognize a few of our guests
• Lots of Pictures with family and friends 

Get Away: Nate had been plotting a dramatic get-away since before he even proposed! He ended up whisking me away in this giant army truck after we were bombarded with birdseed!

 Fun Fact: We hardly had time to eat at our own reception, so we stopped for some food and snacks on our way out of town. The lady ringing us out asked if we had just gotten married - she said all the birdseed in my hair was a dead give-away!

We had a wonderful day and are truly thankful for God's gift of marriage!

For more pictures from our ceremony, click here.

The Time Has Come!

You know it's Wedding Week when...

• Extended family pulls into town in an RV they drove from Texas
• Mom is figuring out where she can stash her tissue supply for the big day
• Grandma braves driving hours by herself through bad weather to join in on the family fun 
• The groom starts losing sleep!
• You start spelling your own last name wrong even though its been 24 years - time to change it!
• Countless family and friends offer a helping hand and words of encouragement - enough to make you cry with appreciation
• You get choked up reading through what will be said at the ceremony and the words you will share with your very-soon-to-be spouse!
• You begin to truly understand God's gift of marriage and constantly thank Him for your very loving and supportive soon-to-be husband!

We're looking forward to what these next few days will bring and the lifetime of memories to follow!

Photo Credit: www.BrandiScottPhotography.com

A Break from Wedding World

"Are we going to make it in your blog now?!"

Sadly, I have not been keeping up too well with my blog lately, but this comment from Jillian this afternoon inspired me to write tonight!

Knowing February would be full of "final details" for the wedding, I made a point to add some fun with friends in the mix. I met up with friends from college this afternoon at The Melting Pot for a wonderful time with fondue and catching up on each other's lives. Rachel, Jillian, Honna, and I had business classes together and are now all part of the working world spread out between Rochester, Syracuse, and Binghamton. It was great to spend time together again!

This wedding is sneaking up on me and Nate in just three short weeks! Here's a peek at what we've been up to as we prepare:

• Taste tested food with our caterer
• Met with our pastor for pre-marital counseling
• Built a wooden bench to use as our "guest book"
• Showed up for a dress fitting only to find out the seamstress forgot to bring the dress - oops!
• Received our marriage license
• And made decisions about flowers, decorations, songs, hair styles, shoes, accessories, and the list goes on...

While I was at the Melting Pot, Nate spent the weekend with his brothers and the guys snowboarding, racing go karts, and chowing down at Dinosaur BBQ! It was nice to take a break from "Wedding World" and spend time with friends. We're looking forward to celebrating with each of them in a few weeks!

Our Dream Home

After Nate purchased a house in July, we've been working to fix it up to move into once we're married. After getting the apartment rented out at the end of November, we were able to focus our attention on the main part of the house - and it has been exciting to see the transformation!

We've put in countless hours cleaning, fixing, updating, and painting. The whole time we've been praying about the various ways the Lord will allow us to use this space in the years to come. We're looking forward to it being our home, but we're also praying for unique opportunities to minister to others within these walls.

Here's a peek of what we've been up to & what we're looking forward to:

Living Room: Perfect for game nights, cozy evenings by the fire, sunshine through the large picture window, spending time with friends, and sharing life with those we love!

Office: Due to the color of the walls, this will primarily be my space. Due to the fact that I love to organize and manage paperwork, this space will primarily be used to keep track of those important things. Along with office items, I'll keep craft supplies in here for when I have time again to crochet, sew, and use my creative side!

Nate's version of this space is the garage. He has tons of room for all his tools - and his motorcycle! I'm learning that Nate appreciates organization too, and he's been out in that garage a few times to start finding places for all of his gadgets!

While these spaces reflect each of our hobbies, we're praying God uses us and our areas of interest to bless and encourage others.

Our Bedroom: While I had roommates in college and shared rooms with my sisters growing up, Nate has never had a roommate. We're sure it will take some adjusting to begin sharing a bedroom, but we're looking forward to learning more about each other and of course, not having to text or call each other to say, "Goodnight!"

Nate and I won't only be sharing a bedroom, we'll both be living in the same house for the first time. It will probably take a lot of grace, forgiveness, and compromise as our relationship is stretched, but we're praying that our relationship will grow and develop within these walls so our lives will reflect Christ wherever we go.

Guest Room: It will be exciting to see who the Lord brings through this door. Our desire is to show love and hospitality to all who enter our home.

Bathroom: This area of the house is where we'll take care of many of our daily physical needs. With only one bathroom in the house, I'm sure we'll learn about sacrifice and compromise real quick!

Dining Room: We picked a bright, cheery color for the walls in this room to help energize us as we start the day! Nate and I look forward to eating meals together and with family and friends in this space.

Kitchen: I've realized that Nate is pretty good at cooking breakfast, and I enjoy baking and trying new recipes. We want this kitchen to be a place of creativity as we prepare food for ourselves and others.

Laundry Room: From this picture, you can see it's also perfect for storage! No, we do not plan to keep our ladder and couch in this room, but perhaps some of our cleaning supplies and other odds & ends.

Upstairs Room: Part of the attic is finished, making a fourth bedroom. We're planning to use this space for a TV, lots of comfy pillows, and hanging out. With re-doing the rest of the house, this room has really not been touched. We'll get around to it some day, but for now - it will be our Random Room!

Up to this point, Nate and I have still only been dreaming about our future home. We're not sure what life will bring once we're married, but we're thankful for these many months we've had to work together on making this house a home. We're looking forward to discovering what the Lord has in mind for us to use this space for!

End of 2012

Now that we're 3 weeks into 2013, it's time to catch up a bit on the past month!

My sisters both traveled home for Christmas this year. It was fun to have them home and even more fun that we enjoyed a white Christmas this year!

My Grandma, Aunt, and cousins, Brian & Jason traveled up the day after Christmas. I had off work between Christmas and New Years, so it was nice to be home and spend time with family. The snow kept coming, which made for some tricky days of traveling, but we did have a blast sledding and playing in the snow - and we appreciated the extra helping hands to keep the driveway shoveled!

My extended family threw a bridal shower for me right after Christmas, and we all braved the weather to spend an afternoon together at Aunt Jan's house for food, games, gifts, and family. It was neat for my Aunt Pam and Grandma from Maryland to join my family from New York for the occasion.

Our family traveled again through the winter weather to celebrate Christmas with my dad's side of the family, and our typical 2.5 hour drive up took about 4 hours! After seeing several cars off the road, we were thankful for a safe trip to Grandma & Grandpa's and home again. Nate was able to have the day off work to join us for a great meal together, the annual tour of Grandpa's village, and family time.

Nate and I hit the slopes on New Year's Eve. We traveled to a ski place I hadn't been to before, and since we brought canned food, we got free lift tickets! Since it had been snowing all week, the trails were great and we enjoyed an afternoon together. We headed home in time to ring in the New Year with some friends and excited for what 2013 will bring!

I'll Be Home for Christmas

One of the nice things about ending up back in Binghamton, is that even though many of my friends have moved out of state - their parents still live in Binghamton, so they have a reason to come back every once in a while!

Two friends from forever were in town this past week to celebrate Christmas with their families. We were able to get together for lunch to catch up!

It's nice to stay in touch long-distance with phone calls, texts, notes, and pictures, but there's nothing like getting together in person and really spending time together.

While we used to get together for girl-time, we had two husbands and a fiance join us this time! It's been wonderful to see God's plan unfold in each of our lives and the new adventures we've each had since we were in high school together. Although times together with these friends are sometimes few and far between, the Lord has allowed our friendship to continue as we each look forward to the unique future He has in store for us.

Not only were Heather and Pam in town for Christmas, but my sisters both came home for the week of Christmas!

Amy is now living in Arizona, and Julie is home for a few weeks before her final semester of college. I'm on vacation from work all this week, so it'll be great to spend time with Amy and Julie while they are home.

I'm glad Binghamton is still considered "home" for family and friends that have moved away!

Another Airport Rescue

My sister, Julie, was studying abroad in Lithuania for the semester. Her travels home began on Tuesday, and when she made it to London, her flight home was delayed 8 hours.

Julie's friends has planned to pick her up at the airport in New York City Thursday night at 6:30pm, but her new arrival time was around 2am!

Nate and I both had the day off, so we offered to travel down and pick Julie up.

As we were preparing for our journey, the snow started coming down and the roads became slick.

We ventured off into the dark storm at 11:30pm - slowly making our way through snow, rain, and fog.

To add to the crazy weather, the exhaust on my car had been getting worse in recent weeks, so we endured the loud noises from my car every once in a while.

Four hours later we finally arrived at the airport where Julie was anxious to see us and complete her last leg of the journey home. After greeting Julie and loading the car up, we were headed back home!

As we were leaving the City, the rain was still coming down, and we hit a huge puddle of water - and then we heard something dragging below the car. Eventually we found a safe place to pull over, but realized there was nothing we could do about the part hanging from below my car. Nate assured us the vehicle was still safe to drive, and we continued home.

Later we found out the item dragging on the ground the whole was home was the catalytic converter - with this dragging and the exhaust and muffler totally shot, we sounded like the lead car in a Nascar the whole drive back to Binghamton! VRRRROOOOOMMM!!!! It was unreal.

The trip would have been stressful enough with the dark night, rainy weather, and lack of sleep - but combine that with a noise so loud you can hardly concentrate - and it was a trip we will never forget!

We safely arrived home around 8am and promptly took my car to the shop.

Nate successfully completed another airport rescue, Julie was finally home after days of traveling, and my car now sounds brand new!

Laura Tischer's Final Birthday

"Don't eat breakfast tomorrow." -Nate's subtle request the night before my birthday...

He showed up at my house in the morning with breakfast he had made! He called it Keishomelette - an egg  and venison creation that was rather tasty! Breakfast together was a great was to start the day before I headed off to work.

My co-worker and I share a birthday, so it was fun to celebrate two birthdays and a friend visited me for lunch. Between phone calls, text messages, birthday cards, and Facebook messages - many family and friends helped celebrate my birthday throughout the day too!

Nate picked me up from work and we drove up to Syracuse for a birthday dinner. Nate had looked up a couple restaurant options, and we ate at an Italian place with the best homemade dinner rolls!

After dinner we went to the Lights on the Lake display and drove through 2 miles of Christmas light displays. It was a fun little trip to take together, and on the way home while singing along to Christmas songs on the radio Nate started changing the words to birthday songs about me - he knows how to keep me laughing!

Nate had the day off from work and made a gift for me after shopping for supplies at his two favorite stores - Harbor Freight and Lowes. He made a wooden box and filled it with some thoughtful presents from one of my favorite stores! Overall it was a fun day and a reminder of the many family and friends that love and care for me.

Birthday Weekend

We had our first birthday celebration at the new house! We combined a work day with a pizza party and birthday cake!

On Friday, my parents and Nate's dad joined Nate and I as we touched up trim, scraped wall paper, prepped ceilings for painting, and got other projects done around the house!

We took a break for pizza and wings and then another break for cake in a cup - and all the extra helping hands at the house was a greatly appreciated birthday present!

My dad and I went back the next day and painted mine and Nate's future bedroom - the first real color we put on the walls! It's been exciting to see the transformation that fresh paint can make!

My parents took me out for lunch after church, and then I went to the mall for a birthday shopping spree. I felt somewhat guilty when the cashiers kept asking if I needed gift receipts for my items, and I was only buying things for myself - but I did enjoy updating my wardrobe a bit with birthday money I received.

It was fun to celebrate my birthday throughout the weekend in a few different ways!

Keeping Everything in Perspective

This picture is from the day Nate proposed. We got engaged in June.

Little did we know what all engagement actually entailed.

We've successfully made it through 6 months of being engaged, and with only 3 months left to go, I've come to realized that the engagement period is this really unique time of transition full of anticipation, planning, self-control, expectations, and wishing you could go back to the days of care-free dating!

Overall, these months of our engagement have been a period of learning and growth.

Two weeks after Nate proposed, he closed on a house that we have been working on fixing up to move into after the wedding.

One month after we got engaged, Nate started a new position at work and is now a truck driver at Frito Lay. This meant long hours and an unpredictable schedule and requires a lot of patience and flexibility.

Throw planning a wedding into the mix and preparing for marriage and you have a whole lot of life changes happening all at once!

Instead of becoming overwhelmed by everything going on during this period of engagement, we've really tried to keep things in perspective:

• The wedding day will be one day out of our entire lives. I enjoyed planning events ever since high school. I pictured planning my own wedding to be a wonderful experience, but in reality it's been hard to find motivation at times to keep moving forward with plans and making decisions. We've decided to keep the day simple, but are still looking forward to celebrating the significance of the day with our family and friends in a memorable way.
  
• This house we're fixing up will most likely be our home for the next 10+ years. Nate purchased this house with plans to pay it off in 10 years and eventually move to a house with more land - and perhaps more than the one bathroom this house currently has! We are grateful for the opportunity to work on this house together as we make it our home. It's fun to think about all the major life milestones that could happen at this house as we dream about our future together. We're putting significant time and money into this house know, trusting that the investment will pay off with wonderful memories there in the years to come.
  
• Our relationship as a couple will last a lifetime in marriage. As we've been looking forward to the wedding day and moving into the house, we're also looking for ways to continue developing our own relationship - because without that, these other plans are meaningless. While this engagement period is a busy time of planning and preparing, we're still making time for us as we continue to learn more about each other. We're seeking advice on marriage and have plans for pre-marital counseling. This is a unique time for us to prepare ourselves for the forever commitment we're about to make to each other!
  
• Far beyond each of these three areas and time frames I've mentioned, our relationship with God will last for eternity! All of our plans here are on earth are nothing compared to what God is preparing for us in heaven. Nate and I try to remind ourselves that with everything going on, we need to keep an eternal perspective. There's a line in a poem which says, "Only one life, it will soon be past; Only what's done for Christ will last."

Nate and I might have the best wedding day ever. We may have the best house around. Maybe we'll even have a perfect marriage relationship. But none of that would matter if each of those aren't also glorifying God and moving His purpose forward!

Would you pray for us as we finish out this weird transitional time called engagement? Pray that we'd be able to keep everything in perspective and keep Christ in the center of all we do!

Better Than What We Had Dreamed

When Nate and I first talked about getting married, our dream was to have an October Barn Party style wedding with donuts, cider, and a get-away tractor. Nate was pumped about his tractor idea!

We had fun dreaming about this October wedding, and I was tempted to buy decorative hay bales last year on clearance to hang onto for our Big Day!

As we further considered this time frame for our wedding, my sister Julie was considering studying abroad for a semester. If she decided to study abroad, she would be in Lithuania during our October Barn Party. Not wanting to sway Julie's decision about where to spend her semester, Nate and I kept our hopeful wedding plans to ourselves.

While Julie made plans to travel to Lithuania for her fall semester, I was looking up plane tickets to see what it would cost to fly her back for a wedding weekend in October.

After much prayer and discussion (and the fact that time was ticking and we weren't even officially engaged!), Nate and I realized that there would be no October Barn Party in 2012.

When Nate did propose, we had to decide if we wanted to make October Barn Party 2013 happen. Not interested in waiting that long, we compromised our dream and began making plans for a March 2013 wedding! Julie would be back in the states, and her spring break from classes was actually in March.

Without realizing it when we picked out wedding date, planning for our March wedding has worked out quite well!

Nate purchased a house just after he proposed, so along with wedding plans, we've also been working to fix up this property to move into once we're married.

It's funny to look back on what plans we had in mind, and to now see that relying on God's perfect plan for us really has been better than our original dreams!

• We got engaged during the summer, so we were able to snag some good bargains at garage sales for the wedding and our future home. 
• The timeline of progress at the house allowed us to take advantage of Black Friday deals to purchase some major kitchen appliances as well as other things for our wedding and future home.
• Not only will my sister be on spring break, but relatives from Texas have break that week as well - they are talking about renting an RV and taking a family road trip to NY for the wedding!
• March is a slow season in the wedding world, so vendors and locations have been very available to schedule our special day.

Overall, I'm glad I did not clear out the fall clearance section at Walmart last year! God has used His perfect timing to teach me patience. He does have a sense of humor though because although we did not end up with an October wedding, Nate's family threw us an engagement party in October! It was a perfect fall day - and we were able to celebrate with family and friends...and cider and donuts! I just had to smile as I realized God still allowed our dream to come true - but in His way and in His timing.

As we continue to move toward marriage and prepare our future home, we're praying God will continue to guide our decisions as we rely on Him and His plans for our life together!